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Do you want to stay married to your spouse? If so, negotiating a Postnuptial agreement is one way to put some of the difficulties you have been having in your marriage on the table for an open discussion with your spouse. There may have been a loss of trust for one or another reason, and one or the other of you may wish to be able to have a sense of financial security and independence from your spouse in order to move forward with the relationship. Or there may be issues about the way you handle your finances or property that you had never discussed before, that you may want to address in a post-nuptial agreement.

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Prenuptial Agreements & Postnuptial Agreements Quick Reference Guide

Below we have provided answers to many of the common questions about marital mediation and postnuptial agreements. If you would like more information please do not hesitate to call us at 508.655.5980 or e-mail us.

What is a Postnuptial Agreement?

A postnuptial agreement is a contract formed by a married couple, in the interests of strengthening their marriage, settling financial or legal rights of the couple allowing them to concentrate on more important discussions.

What is the Difference between a Prenuptial Agreement and a Postnuptial Agreement?

A Prenuptial Agreement is signed before a couple enters into marriage while a postnup is signed after a couple enters into a marriage. That difference may seem simple but it results in potentially very different treatment of a prenup or postnup in the event of enforcement.

A prenup must be determined to be valid at the time of the execution of the agreement, and fair and reasonable at the time of enforcement.

A postnup is subject to additional “heightened scrutiny” by a court as to whether there was fraud/coercion and fair and reasonable terms. Ansin v. Craven-Ansin, 457 Mass. 283, 297, 292 (2010). This is because of the intimate relationship between the parties at the time of the forming of a postnup contract – one that leads to very different bargaining dynamics than a negotiation between unmarried persons who can choose to not get married. 

Why would I want a Postnuptial Agreement?

There may be a number of reasons you may want to consider getting a postnuptial agreement. Postnups allow a couple to honestly and openly discuss real-life financial issues that all couples will face at some point or another in their relationships. Some benefits to forming postnups include:

  • Building communication skills
  • Talking honestly about expectations together
  • Removing financial issues as a source of tension
  • Protecting assets that each of you individually brought to the relationship
  • Protecting family assets and inheritances
  • Providing for other family interests, such as parents, siblings or children from prior relationships
Is my Postnuptial Agreement enforceable?

In Massachusetts, postnuptial agreements are enforceable, provided your postnup meets the requirements laid out below. As a general rule, the courts have much stricter standards for a postnup than they do for a prenup. The Ansin v. Craven-Ansin case lays out the standards for whether a postnup is enforceable in Massachusetts:

“Before a marital agreement is sanctioned by a court, careful scrutiny by the judge should determine at a minimum whether

(1) each party has had an opportunity to obtain separate legal counsel of each party’s own choosing;
(2) there was fraud or coercion in obtaining the agreement;
(3) all assets were fully disclosed by both parties before the agreement was executed;
(4) each spouse knowingly and explicitly agreed in writing to waive the right to a judicial equitable division of assets and all marital rights in the event of a divorce; and
(5) the terms of the agreement are fair and reasonable at the time of execution and at the time of divorce (second look).” Ansin v. Craven-Ansin, 457 Mass. 283, 291 (2010).

Whether the terms of an agreement are “fair and reasonable” under (5) above is determined by the courts in light of the factors that the Legislature has written into the law governing division of property and payment of support in the event of a divorce (Mass. Gen. Laws C. 208 §34), with the party requesting enforcement of a postnup having the burden of showing that the terms are “fair and reasonable” in light of these factors. 

The court may also consider factors such as:

  • the disparity between the outcome under the postnup and the outcome under the law at the time of the divorce;
  • whether the agreement sought to benefit or protect third parties (incl. children from a previous relationship);
  • how children of the marriage will be affected by the postnup;
  • length of the marriage;
  • the parties’ motives when they signed the postnup;
  • the parties’ bargaining positions when they signed the postnup;
  • why the parties decided to execute a postnup
  • what pressure, if any, the party contesting the postnup experienced when the postnup was formed;
  • “other circumstances the judge finds relevant”. 
Should I pursue a divorce instead of sign a postnuptial agreement?

Do you want to stay married to your spouse? If so, negotiating a Postnuptial agreement is one way to put some of the difficulties you have been having in your marriage on the table, for an open discussion with your spouse. There may have been a loss of trust for one or another reason, and one or the other of you may wish to be able to have a sense of financial security and independence from your spouse in order to move forward with the relationship. Or there may be issues about the way you handle your finances or property that you had never discussed before, that you may want to address in a post-nuptial agreement.

Do you want to separate from your spouse? If you are certain that the marriage has broken down and there is no hope of reconciliation, then it might make more sense to consider the benefits of transitioning to separate lives.

If you’re not sure if you want to separate or not, mediation can help you decide by providing a safe neutral space for both of you to discuss your options and get additional information before making a decision.

Can I contract for child support or other child-related issues in a postnup?

The court must determine custody and support issues in the best interest of the child and therefore contract provisions that are not consistent with the court’s mandate won’t be upheld. In other words, postnup provisions that try to limit or define custody and child support are unlikely to be enforceable. 

Can we Mediate our Postnup?

Mediation and Collaborative negotiation both support relationships through interest-based negotiation so they are ideal for considering everyone’s goals and creating joint agreements in a postnup.